I don’t know how the last few months whizzed past the oblivious me. Before i know it i’m crossing off my last few single days on my calendar. Taking a break from all the last minute errands, here are my pearls of wisdom:
- Being the ‘bride’ will be your new identity. You’ll breathe, eat and sleep wedding plans. And they keep changing every minute of the day, much like an army operation.
- Even if you start shopping months before the wedding, the list will grow and grow and grow and the shopping will not show any signs of ending. The once upon a time very relaxing activity will turn out to be the most stressful part of your day.
- You will expected to glow, blush and look coy everytime the word ‘wedding’ is uttered. Any other reaction will not be favourably received.
- I suggest you pick a tailor even before you pick the boy cos the process is just as intense and the decision life altering. The relationship you share with your tailor will be a love-hate one. But just remember that you picked him/her after a lot of deliberation and he/she has your best interest at heart. Without trust the relationship will not work.
- If you don’t make a list of the colours of sarees you already own before you shopping, your eyes will dance over to the colour of the season. Then you’ll end up with 5 sarees in different shades of blue like me. For the ignorant, there are more than 5 shades of blue.
- You know its time to call it a shopping day when all the colours start to fade in and out and merge.
- The skill of selective hearing must most definitely be cultivate. All the hints dropped about improving one’s culinary skills must be dutifully ignored. We’ll cross the bridge when we come to it.
- Pretending to understand the complex family tree is mandatory.
In all this frenzy, there’s very little time to even think of getting cold feet. This where i currently am. So do you guys have any gyaan for me?
20 responses so far ↓
Adithya // March 6, 2009 at 5:29 pm |
Lol, orey kalyana kalai eh?
Do share the pics. And good luck! For the Day and beyond. Justu don’t wear that over make up and look albino, ok?Ok! :p
Nandini Vishwanath // March 6, 2009 at 5:55 pm |
Ignore. And keep smiling. No one forgets a grumpy bride, even if you’re dying of suffocation.
And take the groom into confidence for everything. Parents are the biggest pain.
buddy // March 6, 2009 at 5:59 pm |
all the best!
Sasidhar // March 7, 2009 at 8:25 am |
All the best is all I have to say
Myd // March 7, 2009 at 10:24 am |
5?! seriously?! hmm.. link bookmarked for future reference.
and oh for those of us who cant make it.. we expect some live tweeting
have fun!
nags // March 8, 2009 at 1:15 am |
Enjoy! This is once in a lifetime (ideally!) so try to have fun in the midst of all the craziness going on. Trust me when I saw the day of the wedding will be a blur and when you try to think back the next week , or even the next day, you will have no clue what happened.
Its easiest to just give in instead of trying to make the day go your way. That never works.
Good luck
Ree // March 8, 2009 at 3:43 am |
ALL the very very very BEST … have lots and lots of FUN …. as Nags says it is ideally a once in a lifetime experience SO ENSOII
sthitapragnya // March 8, 2009 at 10:37 am |
Whoa!! Another bride to be!! Lovely! This is indeed a wedding season! In the last 2 months, 5 of my friends tied the knot and I cudn’t make it to even one of the weddings!! Alas!!
Anyway, All the very best and Good Luck!
Ela // March 8, 2009 at 11:17 am |
Have fun!
maxdavinci // March 9, 2009 at 6:38 pm |
i called, you didn’t pick! I angry….
Mouli // March 10, 2009 at 8:57 am |
As the date nears, just sit back and enjoy the train ride – like someone in the thread said, it is a once-in-a-lifetime thingie, dont just rely on the video/vcd to later see how things happened. Sit back and enjoy it yourself
I did it, and totally enjoyed it. (Agreed that, to a certain extent, in a tamizh kalyanam, a groom does not need to too much work and all 
).
All the beshtu !
Dharini // March 10, 2009 at 9:29 am |
Auto pilot.com…..that’s what will happen:)
N.V.Prashanth // March 10, 2009 at 7:25 pm |
Vaazhthukkal! More than the marriage itself… wait for the post marriage sambradhaayams… like virundhu..edhir virundhu…edhir whole square virundhu and all those stuff! Whoa..all the best!
kusublakki // March 10, 2009 at 8:17 pm |
Lol @ pick a tailor before a boy….it is imp to keep them happy..they do indeed possess a power to spoil your clothes, or make you look gorgeous!
Anyways, best wishes to both of you!
sundar // March 14, 2009 at 12:04 pm |
Now, at the 11th hour, what could I say ?
he..he. No intentions to terrorise U..
Just joking….
Keep smiling…things will fall in place.
xanindia // March 14, 2009 at 10:17 pm |
Congratulations. You will have a new life to look forward to. Positive thinking should always be at the forefront.
datsme // March 18, 2009 at 12:01 pm |
I think I’ll come back to it when I need this post..do write a follow up post as well please…as in tips for surviving the 1st few days with the new family
“…just remember that you picked him/her after a lot of deliberation and he/she has your best interest at heart. Without trust the relationship will not work.” I thought dis is true only for life-partner…lolz
Speakbindas // March 24, 2009 at 5:08 am |
Good good good…. oh! sorry, all the best!
suhag // April 5, 2009 at 5:26 pm |
hi really liked your website… well shall we exchange links..
Archana // April 18, 2009 at 7:58 am |
I just clicked into your blog randomly and I have to say this entry is adorable. My sister just recently got married and reading this was like seeing a re-cap of everything that we all went through prior to the wedding. And you are SO right about the list of things to buy, it just keeps growing, and growing, and growing.
But all that aside, the same advice I gave my sister… Just breathe, enjoy each moment for what it’s worth, live in the now and don’t keep muddling your head with thoughts about what’s been checked off the list, what’s on the agenda tomorrow, etc. Just wake up, kick start each day with a smile and as the big day comes nearer, you’ll find yourself with a sense of calm (and excitement!).